We hope you will agree when we say:
Children are dreamers.
Their imaginations know no bounds and their dreams are often a mixture of fantasy and hopefulness.
But if you try and remember back when you were a child, you may not remember any dreams you had of the future.
Sometimes this can make you think that your child may not have dreams of their own.
Even if you did dream, your dreams are not your child’s.
Children understand that the world is their oyster, that anything can happen and this is what we should encourage as parents.
Don’t refuse your child the right to dream, as this is how you begin to minimize their chances of success.
Let’s take a look at some easy ways you can start helping your children become whatever they want to be.
Don’t Stand In Their Way
If you want your children to achieve everything they want in life, whether it’s being a doctor or the first woman to land on Mars, then you need to start with how YOU act.
Don’t stand in their way. Parents stand in their children’s way when you deny their dreams, or try to control what they want to do with their life.
You also block their path when you don’t teach the right life skills, give them the best education you can or if you’re constantly being negative about life.
It is a parent’s job to ensure that children are safe, healthy, and well cared for.
Another part of being a parent is to help your children be as successful as possible in their lives.
Don’t block their path to success with your negativity. Negativity will carry over into their adult lives.
Be a Good Example
Kids look up to adults – they learn from what they see.
They take their cues from us, repeat what we say and act out what we do.
- What is it that you want your children to see, do and act?
- Something positive that will carry them through life and the hardest times or a ‘can’t be bothered’ attitude?
- Which is going to be more beneficial for them?
Children learn from an early age and we, as their parents, are their teachers.
What we do, they see. What we say, they will repeat.
Our accomplishments and attitudes set the bar. Success can be achieved by anyone, it does not matter where or what income level you are born into.
If you set the right attitude – by being positive and working hard to succeed in life – then your children will incorporate the same principals in their own lives. This will be where they set their own standards.
In the same regard, anyone can fail in life. It doesn’t matter if you are born poor or to a wealthy family – a child that is raised in a family that does not adopt the principals and attitude that you can achieve anything as long as you work for it means that they are unlikely to be successful in their lives.
From looking at this, then, we can clearly see that the starting point in your child’s journey to success begins with you, the parent.
While some children will grow up and adopt principals that are different from their parents, the parents set the foundations for their success. Start them off with a solid foundation and they can go the distance.
Help Them Take Action
When children are little they like to change their minds.
A lot. One day they will be interested in being a police officer, the next day a vet, the next an astronaut.
This is normal and to be expected.
However, as they get older, they will start to focus on one or two things that really capture their attentions and this will develop into a dream.
As parents, we want to encourage our children to achieve these dreams. Some dreams may seem to be easier to achieve than others but even if it seems impossible, help your children to work towards them.
How do you do this? How do you help them take action?
There are a number of ways you can help your children begin working towards their dreams and being successful.
First, get them to write down what they want to achieve.
It’s one thing to know what you want to do in your head but when you see it written down on paper then the dream begins to take on a semblance of reality. It is this point that their dreams start to become reality.
The next part is to help research what your child wants to do. Do this together.
As you learn more about their dreams, the more you can help them help themselves. This is where the practical side of things starts to emerge.
As you research, you both will learn what steps they will need to complete in order to achieve success.
The third step is to look at how long it can and should take to achieve the goal. It could mean anything from before they turn 18 years old, or within ten years of graduating from college.
A timeline or schedule can be of great benefit when striving for success.
Create a plan. Look at the things they need in order to achieve their goals and come up with a step-by-step guideline.
- Will they need to learn a specific language?
- Or a particular skill?
If so, help them enroll in the right classes or groups so they can develop those skills as soon as possible.
Help your child to focus on what they want to achieve and encourage them with it. Kindle those small burning sparks of interest into an intense desire to achieve those goals.
At times children will lose that drive so it is your job as their parents to give them a little push (or shove, as can be the case sometimes) to carry on when things seem to be at a stand-still.
It is your job to help them turn that “I had a dream once” to “I have achieved everything I set out to achieve”.
Help Them Set Small Goals
Sometimes a dream can be so big that it is daunting for a child, so daunting in fact that it can make them want to turn their backs on it.
Don’t let them do this.
If you want your child to succeed in life then don’t let them walk away from their dreams. They will end up being unsuccessful in everything else they do in life.
Help the set smaller goals to achieve and guide them along the way if they need to.
When you set smaller goals is helps with two things – one, they learn determination, motivation and organization and two, that they can and will achieve bigger success if they put their minds to it.
Smaller goals are not about the main goal – instead, it is more of a teaching exercise for children.
It allows children to realize that they can achieve whatever they want in life. Success is achieved through motivation and determination.
As parents, we need to teach these lessons so that even if the goals change over the years, they still have the skills they require in order to achieve success.
Show Them Your Support
Although it may not seem like it, your child has the motivation to do whatever they dream of doing but motivation doesn’t always help or drive them to success.
Your motivation helps to drive theirs. It also helps them mentally and emotionally. In this life, the one person a child looks up to above all others is their parent.
Your support means they have someone on their side. Your support means that they have someone to lean on when they get tired.
Your support means they can depend on you to help encourage them when they feel like giving up. Your support is what divides success and failure.
Because of this, show them you support them in life.
- Be encouraging.
- Listen to their worries, their anxieties.
- Offer support without telling them what to do be positive about what they can achieve.